Flow Perceptual Style and Conflict

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Matt’s Perceptual Style™ is FLOW.

Matt sees the world emerging as a matter of course, reflecting harmony and cooperation.

He trusts in the continual flow of experience and believes that what is important and necessary will eventually become apparent.

Matt perceives a richly textured world where the pieces fit together and support as well as depend on each other.

He knows the connections he sees are not always obvious to others, and so he takes the time to patiently explain.

Matt creates and sustains powerful but personal relationships that form and hold communities together.

When it comes to conflict, Matt tries to 'see the other side' before reluctantly engaging.

He moves toward resolution by emphasizing common ground and offering perspectives that minimize differences.

Matt will sometimes settle for compromises that may not be in his best interest just to move past the conflict.

Your Perceptual Style represents the way you see the world and how you react to it

Your Perceptual Style,

the way you make meaning of the world around you and take action,

is the foundation of your conflict resolution skills.

Everyone can resolve conflicts, diffuse arguments, and win over the opposition.
The key is to rely on your natural strengths rather than trying to mimic someone else's approach.

Do you know what your natural Strengths are?

Your Perceptual Style is the foundation of all your natural strengths, dealing with conflict included! How you see the world and make it meaningful to you has everything to do with how you mitigate and resolve conflict.

The decisions you make, the actions you take, and the directions you choose are all influenced by your Perceptual Style because it defines reality for you.

The more you know about your Perceptual Style, the more you can tap into your natural strengths and potential. That’s because there’s an extensive set of skills and behaviors that naturally align with each Perceptual Style.

Perceptual Style Theory™, created by Gary M. Jordan, PhD, and Lynda-Ross Vega, defines six unique Perceptual Styles.

Each Perceptual Style represents a grouping of fundamental aspects of being human that results in a distinctive experience and characteristic behaviors.

Have you met all of our Perceptual Style representatives? Press the blue tabs below to read about each specific Perceptual Style.

The people above represent each Perceptual Style—Tina is Activity, Pam is Adjustments, Matt is Flow, Anne is Goals, Jack is Methods, and Dan is Vision. Who did you identify with most?

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The more you know about your Perceptual Style, the more you can tap into your natural strengths and potential. That’s because there’s an extensive set of skills and behaviors that naturally align with each Perceptual Style.

The alignment of skills and behaviors with Perceptual Style exists because people naturally see the things associated with their Perceptual Style. Those things are easy for them to grasp, understand, and use.

Awareness of the other five Perceptual Styles and how they differ from you provides incredible insights about your relationships with family and friends.

And understanding how other people differ from you is key to preventing conflict from escalating.

Let's look at a few of the strengths of each Perceptual Style in the way they approach conflict:


  • You view conflict as an unavoidable reality.

  • You know that deep conflict is hurtful to others, and you will retreat when you sense that you have gone too far. At such times, you will turn your energy to the building and maintenance of relationships and move the conflict to the back seat.

  • With your ability to read people and context, you are often aware of meaningful conflict before others are.


  • You know that conflict is irrational and unsettling.

  • You believe conflict is unnecessary and occurs because the people in contention don't possess the information they need.

  • You lead conflicting parties to an agreement by gathering information from both sides and then presenting each side in a way that increases appreciation and overall understanding.


  • You experience conflict as a disruptive force that pushes people away from each other.

  • You believe that little good comes from conflict because it breaks the bonds that create relationships.

  • Even when on the winning side, you feel the pain and resentment of the losers and see the long-term disruptive consequences to the larger community.



  • You thrive on competition and see conflict as a way to test yourself against others.

  • You respond to resistance with increased determination and resolve to find an immediate solution.

  • You can lose sight of the ramification for others with your relentless focus on winning.


  • You understand that differences between people occur and that those differences lead to conflicts.

  • However, you believe conflict can be resolved by examining the facts.

  • You view conflict as an irritating reality that can be mitigated if addressed objectively, openly, and with no hidden agendas.


  • You accept conflict as a natural and expected part of life.

  • You strive to resolve, dissolve, or dismiss conflict quickly and move on.

  • You can be confrontational and will challenge others to “step up” to determine who is serious and who is not.

You would think that human beings, given their hard wiring to seek community, would have found a solution to interpersonal conflict eons ago.

No such luck. In fact, interpersonal conflict is a natural outcome of human interaction. People see the world differently, have different values and expectations, and don't always share the same goals or opinions.

It's helpful to recognize that everyone wants to belong and be valued, and no one wants to be disliked. If you can start from the assumption that other people usually mean well and don't intend to irritate or insult you, it's easier to realize they just don't see the situation the same way you do.

When you keep this concept in mind, it takes some of the stings out of disconnects. It's not personal; it's a different perspective.

Some conflict in your life is inevitable. Whether the conflicts are minor or severe, you possess natural skills to help you deal effectively with conflict.

What is the best way to manage conflict in your life

What’s the best way to manage conflict in your life?

Discover your Perceptual Style!

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  • Social Interaction is essential to your life. What's also interesting is that you will thrive in some social situations and surroundings and be miserable in others. Why continue guessing which is which?

  • Communication is vital. We all want to be understood, yet we experience disconnects with others that get in the way. How you see the world and make it meaningful to you has everything to do with how you express yourself and how you listen. Why not tap into your communication strengths right now to ensure the important connections you want?

  • Self-motivation spurs you to action for what you want to do and what you need to do. Why waste time with procrastination when you have the natural skills to tame it?

  • Some conflict in your life is inevitable. Whether the conflicts are minor or severe, you possess natural skills to help you deal effectively with opposition and disagreement. Why suffer through another uncomfortable conflict with someone you care about when you could use your strengths to diffuse and resolve the situation easily?

  • Change is constant; it's part of your daily life. Your adaptability strengths mean the difference between excessive worry and stress versus dealing with changes on your terms. Isn’t time to bring your strengths related to change out in the open?

  • Real leadership success happens from the inside out - using your natural strengths to guide and inspire others to great achievement. You are presented with opportunities to lead every day, in all aspects of your life. Why not harness your natural leadership skills and take the stress out of leading?

  • Persuasion is a critical life skill. Convincing others to agree with your point of view, adopt a particular perspective, or take a course of action you suggest is something you need to do every day – at work, at home, at school, with friends. Why not tap into your natural abilities to persuade with ease and confidence?

You don’t need this critical information about you someday…you need it now!

This is your key to dealing with conflict YOUR way!

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  • It’s so easy to start your celebration today!



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