What do "Monsters" and great relationships have in common?
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I have a confession to make. I rarely watch competition shows like American Idol, America’s Got Talent, The Voice, or even Dancing with the Stars when they are broadcast.
That’s precisely what I did a few days ago. I was sitting at my desk, thinking about what I should write for this week’s blog. I had some ideas, but none really hit home. So, I decided to let my mind wander for a bit and looked at the news highlights. I saw a headline that Iam Tongi won the latest season of American Idol. I decided to check out the video. But instead of watching the finale, I was drawn to the title on his audition video. So that’s the one I picked. (if you haven’t seen it yet, here’s the link (190) Iam Tongi Makes The Judges Cry With His Emotional Story And Song - American Idol 2023 - YouTube).
The title was spot on. The judges did indeed shed a few tears, as did I. Everyone I’ve shown it to since has had tears. Iam has a wonderful voice, and the song he chose, “Monsters”, written and originally performed by James Blunt, is haunting. It’s about connection, love, and facing mortality.
The lyrics of the song, and Iam’s performance, are wonderful reminders about the importance of relationships. Gary and I have done several articles on the topic of connection lately, but I think there’s always room for one more.
Health studies and songs that tug on your heartstrings are proof that positive relationships are good for you.
The very best relationships all have something in common – joy in commonalities, appreciation of differences, and forgiveness of mistakes.
Joy in the things you have in common with someone else comes easily. It’s validating and fun to feel understood.
But appreciation of differences takes work, and so does forgiveness.
Appreciation requires us to put our egos aside and recognize there just might be another way other than our own. Forgiveness requires an intentional decision to let go of resentment and anger.
In my experience, both appreciation of differences and forgiveness are almost impossible if you don’t feel good about yourself.
In fact, feeling good about yourself – your strengths and your way of seeing the world and taking action – is the critical ingredient for all meaningful relationships.
And feeling good about yourself isn’t just a one-time thing. It’s a daily practice.
Perceptual Style is one of the best tools to help you support your self-worth and your relationships. It transformed my life, and it can do the same for you.
If you already know your Perceptual Style, take a few moments every week to look at your Celebrate You action guide and remind yourself of your natural strengths and potential.
If you don’t know your Perceptual Style, what are you waiting for?
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About Lynda-Ross
Lynda-Ross Vega is a partner at Vega Behavioral Consulting, Ltd. She specializes in helping corporate leaders, entrepreneurs, and individuals with interpersonal communications, team dynamics, personal development, and navigating change. Lynda-Ross is co-creator of Perceptual Style Theory, a revolutionary behavioral psychology theory and assessment system that teaches people how to unleash their natural strengths and build the life and career they dream of.
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